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This is the single most dangerous sex practice there is. As a method of sexual gratification, it’s as old as recorded history. Until the arrival of AIDS, gay men never used condoms when having sex. In fact, pulling out before you came was considered rude. Until the mid-1980s, condoms were deemed kinky, a sex toy among gay men. The AIDS epidemic caused a change in our way of having sex. As of December 2000, 775,000 people in the United States had been diagnosed with AIDS (the figure for HIV disease is much higher). One-half million have died. The worldwide statistics are even more alarming. Since we know so much about the transmission of the virus, having sex someone without a condom is equivalent to two men playing Russian roulette with each other. Younger men seem to be more attracted to barebacking. Perhaps these risk-taking men haven’t watched the slow death of lovers and friends. For them, AIDS is history, like their learning about the Vietnam War. It’s simply not in their experience, as it is for an older generation of gay men. That’s too bad, because it’s a statistical certainty that some of them are going to pay a price—the diagnosis of HIV disease. It would be a mistake, however, to look at barebacking only from a moral perspective. Recent research informs us that emotional problems influence a gay man’s sexual behavior, including his contribution in transmitting the HIV. Depression is the main culprit. Gay men who are depressed, including both acute and chronic depression, are far more likely to participate in unsafe sex. Men with impulsive personalities, especially excitement seekers, are another category of psychologically impaired gay men. They generally describe themselves as “spontaneous,” a claim that is untrue. A man who is spontaneous can make voluntary choices about his behavior; an impulsive man cannot. Both depression and impulsiveness can be effectively treated by both medication and psychotherapy. If you have a friend who is endangering his life by barebacking, ask yourself whether psychological problems might be the cause. If so, taking a moral approach won’t change his behavior (nor will accusing him of stupidity). Help him to make an appointment with a shrink, but only one well versed in gay sex and HIV research. How does a responsible gay man (like you) fulfill his sexual desires, but not endanger himself and other gay men? If you’re going to have sex with, carry condoms. Have them in your night table in your bedroom. Insist that your sex partner use one if he’s going to have sex with you—“Put the condom on or put your clothes on.” Ignore the entreaties of a man who says, “You can have sex with me without a condom,” especially since you can be sure that he said the same thing to the man who had sex with him last night, and the night before, and... If, for some reason—either you are under the influence of alcohol or recreational drugs or a mix of both—you do bareback, be sure to get tested about a month later. If you test negative, get tested again in two more months. If you believe that the man who had sex with you might be HIV-positive, treatment with AZT is available. There may be a day when condoms are no longer necessary because AIDS scientists have successfully produced a vaccine. That’s still years off. In the meantime, lovers who are both HIV-negative and who never trick out need not worry about the HIV or STDs.
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